Archive for September, 2010

Deciphering Their Words

September 22, 2010 Leave a comment

First, we are in the middle of moving, so posts have been a little slow…they should pick up in a week or so.

The words that kids come up or the pronunciation of words is one of the fun things.  So, I though I would take some of the boys words and put them in a little quiz to let you take a guess.  In a few days I will give the answers (and stories behind a couple).  I apologize the quiz is a little clumsy…I had to use a poll for each.



The Band is Back Together

September 15, 2010 Leave a comment

Benjamin and Matthew dug through their toy box this morning and pulled out some toy instruments, including one of those microphones with a spring in them.  After they practiced a little, they handed me the microphone and told me we were going to start a band.  I asked them what the bands name was and Benjamin said, “‘The Triceratops’, since there are three of us.

For the record, Benjamin was on the guitar and Matthew was on keyboard.

Nine Years Later

September 11, 2010 1 comment

Andrea and I took Benjamin and Matthew to the Villanova/Lehigh football game here in Bethlehem, PA.  Just before the National Anthem, they held a moment of silence to commemorate and remember the September 11th attacks.  As the stadium stood silent, I watched my sons digging in the dirt and laughing as they searched for dinosaur bones.  There was such an innocence there in their playing that seemed to be in such stark contrast to the images that were playing through my mind about that day.  I was happy to be wearing sunglasses so they couldn’t see the tears in my eyes.

One of the things that I remember most about that day was watching the coverage that night thinking about my sister and brothers who, between them, had eight children under the age of 10.  I wondered how they were explaining to their kids what was going on.  I wondered what was going through their children’s little minds and how much they saw and how much they understood.  I remember saying a prayer for them.

Nine years later I wonder how long I can protect my sons from knowing the kind of hate and evil that exists in this world.  I wonder when they will first learn what happened on that day.  I wonder if I’ll be able to explain to them what it means.  “Why,” is the most popular question from their mouths about any and every subject.  Nine years later, I still can’t comprehend why it happened and I pray that God gives me an answer to that inevitable question from their lips.

The only thing I feel I can do is to fill their lives with love and surround them with solid values.  I know I need to raise them with faith in a loving, peaceful God.  Explain to them that there is more good in this world than evil.  Teach them to be understanding and respectful of other and their beliefs.

And pray that they never have to witness such a day.

Categories: Observations

The Speech Breakthrough

September 9, 2010 Leave a comment

I am sure some of you noticed that there are a lot more quotes from Benjamin than from Matthew, here.  Of course, Benjamin’s age plays a role in this, not to mention the fact that he is rarely not talking.  However, there are other reasons.

Matthew was speech delayed and he was almost three before he really started talking.  He talks a lot now, but he is often very difficult to understand and, unless you have a Matthew-to-English dictionary, he can be tough to decipher.   We’ve had him working with speech therapists since he was two and they have made a lot of progress with him.  He is so different than where he was a year ago and the things he says are so sweet.

That said, there is one quote from Matthew that I will absolutely remember my entire life.  It was a little before his third birthday and came on a particularly rough morning.  Matthew would speak a word here and there and was almost completely unintelligible.  He very rarely put together two words.

Andrea and I were rushing around, trying to get ready for work and the boys ready for daycare.  Matthew, still in his pajamas, kept wandering around the living room, looking lost and just crying and whining.  As I rushed around, I kept asking him what was wrong and getting more and more frustrated.  I felt the tension coming to a head and I finally turned to him and said, “Matthew, I don’t know what you want.  You need to use your words.”

He looked up at me, and through his tears, he said, as clear as day, “I’m hungry.”  I get emotional even now as I remember that moment.  I just stopped what I was doing and ran over and gave him a hug.  I then proceeded to give him every single piece of food in the house.

There was so much more behind those two words than just the words.  So much importance behind them.  They might as well have been his first words and his first steps and his first smile all rolled together, when they really were none of those.  It was the first time that we had a clear line of communication with our little boy.  There was no deciphering tears and moods and looks.  It was the end of a long period of frustration for all of us…For Andrea, for Matthew, for myself and even for Benjamin.

And the thing is, he got it, also.  The flood gates opened up for Matthew.  It seemed like he realized that power of his words and he started speaking so much more after that and he has been so much happier since then.  Benjamin has always been a very happy child and for a while, it seemed Matthew was going to be the opposite.  After that moment…after those two words, he became so much happier.  It was an amazing transformation.

The one downside is that now, whenever Matthew wants attention, he says, “I’m hungry,” even if he just ate or already has food in front of him.

Are you my Daddy Now?

September 8, 2010 Leave a comment

Last night, my brother came over to watch the boys while I went to class and Andrea was travelling.  Matthew was sitting on his lap for a while, before turning to him and asking, “Are you my daddy now?”


Categories: Matthew Quotes

The Homework Begins

September 8, 2010 Leave a comment

Benjamin was complaining about having to do homework again tonight.  I explained that that he will have homework almost every night.  He replied by saying something like, “But I don’t like doing homework!”

I didn’t respond and after a few moments, Benjamin says, “Papa, you didn’t say anything.”

I responded, “What do you expect me to say?”

He says, “I thought you would say, ‘Well, that’s too bad, buddy.'”

I almost drove off the road because I was laughing so hard.

Categories: Benjamin Quotes

Santa Claus and Candy

September 7, 2010 Leave a comment

The other day, Benjamin, out of the blue, says, “Papa, can you not give me candy before Christmas, and then, after Santa comes, give me candy?”

After a few moments, I started lauging when I realized what was going on.  So I turn to Benjamin and ask, “Is it because you know you get naughty when you have candy and you don’t want coal from Santa?”

He smiled sheepishly, hid his face and said, “yes.”

Categories: Benjamin Quotes